We Are Worthy

I’ve written (and spoken) about how people need to fight for their happiness but this is something that just keeps presenting itself in my life; so here I go again.

I have had a rough couple of days and this morning a friend of mine sent me a message saying, “Hey, go out and make today yours. Forget everything and everyone else,” and this so drastically changed my mood. My response was, “know what? I will!” because I was so done being upset about how my world was going that I decided to change it. I am going to fight for my own happiness today and it will not be dependent upon people around me.

This is where I see a lot of people have a weakness, they keep trying to make other people happy in hopes that they’ll return the favour and the truth of the matter is that doesn’t always happen. Many girls spend days waiting on their boyfriends to do something incredibly romantic that will make their day. Some guys spend years waiting on their dad to be the role model they want. More often then not, the boyfriend doesn’t even know that’s what she’s waiting for and the dad is too deep into his own personal struggles to see his son burning to see a hockey game with him. Then there are people who are waiting for something to happen. They feel like they’ve tried everything and don’t know how else to make themselves happy.

My strategy? Flowers and tea. Sometimes I ask my dad, brother or friend if they would mind bringing me one of the two, especially on days where I can’t leave my house. Due to many injuries I have learned the importance of asking for help and letting other people support me instead of trying to do it all alone. There are lots of people out there that want to be of aid and use but nobody is a mind reader, you must express your needs.

Oh, all the people I’ve spoken to who don’t believe they deserve help or happiness because of x, y, or z that they did wrong. Stop that. We all screw up, give credit where it’s due, apologize where you should and accept that you’re no different then the rest of humanity. I’ve spent hours both trying to convince people that they’re special and being convinced of the same thing but ultimately that is only a half truth. Yes, you as an individual are different then anyone else on this earth and you have experienced a unique combination of struggles but you are not so special as to be more “messed up”, “damaged” or “hopeless” as everyone else.

You will not be please by all the same things others will be and so sometimes it’s time to stop attempting to be content with typical “in the box” type stuff and try something just for you. There are defiantly a vast number of people out there whom flowers and tea please, and so I am not so different; but at the same time I care very little for the “normal” girls night out or shopping trip that seem agreeable to others. I am worth being happy and so I have to keep trying things, however small that I feel might make a difference in my mood. Aside from my two smaller things, I have recently noticed that I have been lacking in physical activity, which used to be a big outlet for me…I am now looking into western horseback riding. This is something I did when I was no more than 9 and now I know that the more formal English riding isn’t for me so I am pursuing something more casual.

I’m terribly sorry for going on about myself but I want to give some examples of how to give you some contentment in life.

Everyone is worth happiness but you can’t possibly expect others (who are often busy tending to their own happiness) to always be there to supply you with it much the same as hoping for a miracle to drop out of the sky is likely to leave you disappointed and out of time.

You must decide you are worth the fight and the happiness to follow and venture for it yourself but be willing to ask for help occasionally, too.