Be The Beautiful You Are

In my humble opinion, there is nothing more heartbreaking than a person who is beautiful (inside and out) and thinks they’re worthless. This has been appearing frighteningly frequently in my life recently.

I’m not supposed to take on other people’s problems or let their lives weigh on me. However, that’s hard to do when a stunning young woman I’ve known since she was born and a remarkable man whose wit and kindness is incomparable think they are less. Have you ever had that moment where you don’t know whether you’re going to scream or cry? That’s precisely how I feel thinking about the way these young people view themselves. They are not alone…In fact, most of the truly amazing youths I know have no idea how much they are worth to me, let alone the rest of the world.

Girls. Things I wish every girl I know, knew:

       1.     You’re gorgeous… seriously I can’t think of one girl I know who isn’t.

       2.     Boyfriends and relationships are painfully overrated in high school.

       3.     You deserve friends you can trust and people who love you around.

       4.     Whatever drama is going on will end and people will forget, no matter how life altering it may feel in the moment.

       5.     You shouldn’t need to put on a show for anyone, be you and you’ll attract a lot better relationships than trying to be someone you aren’t. (PSST…nice/real guys like real girls).

And now for the guys:

       1.     Similarly to above…real girls also like nice and real guys. Don’t be someone you aren’t.

       2.     Emotions are good. Shutting down doesn’t make you look manly because eventually you will break.

       3.     Don’t be the one to throw the first punch. Self-defence is one thing, uncalled for aggression is another.

       4.     “Bro’s before h0es” isn’t a thing. Treat your girl and your friends with respect. Balance is key.

       5.     I know I’ve been guilty of this belief but in reality, “leagues” don’t exist. Like who you like, maybe they reciprocate. Being “hotter” than someone else is so arbitrary.

Frankly most of those apply to both genders though. Those are just a few things that have been on my mind recently; disagree with them or whatever you see fit. All I really want is for those incredible people to see that they are loved, cared for and special.

I know that mental illness and life circumstances can make it hard to see your worth, believe me I do but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t exist. It’s good to be humble but that can be coupled with self-respect, they are most certainly not mutually exclusive.

I hate depression and depression hates me, but we’ve learned to coexist. I, “get along with the voices inside of my head,” (shout out to Eminem and Rihanna for one of my favourite songs ever).